Almost a year after losing our previous dog, a sweet Maltese of 18 yo, I really felt the need to fill the hole in my heart and home again. So I adopted a sweet little 11 week old cocker, 3 months ago to become my new BFF and cuddler in crime. However…
Puppy blues hit very hard. Although the breeder assured me that this type of dog would be a great companion for a first time owner (I was still a child when the previous dog was being raised), he is stubborn and extremely low threshold. He is definitely easy with picking up commands, but gets bitey and growly after the slightest trigger. At 5mo he also suddenly started refusing to eat his dry kibble, and whining again in crate at night after sleeping perfectly alone for 3 weeks. That in addition to him being underweight (the "he'll get hungry eventually" isn't working for us, too stubborn) and already on special urinary care kibble for his bladder stones has me feeling very worried and incompetent, like I cannot raise this puppy or even keep him healthy.
As a breaking point today, he chewed on my mom's glasses, breaking the glass (we found all pieces, so no ingestion luckily) . I have always been 100% positive reinforcement, except for using timeouts with leash tethering if he really needs to calm down/did something wrong. At puppy school, my family, a friend of mine with dogs all say that I need to be more strict. That by cuddling and trying to bond with my dog, he sees me as equal and will never be well-behaved. They say I should let go of the BFF image and be more severe in my tone of voice, show who's the boss, ignore him more. And that really hurts.
So TL;DR I would like some advice on how to be more strict with my subborn/low-threshold puppy. How to make him see what is really unacceptable behaviour, but without losing the bond that we built so far.
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