Hi,
I've posted on this subreddit once for some help with getting my puppy (now turning 15 weeks soon) to be okay with us brushing him which was extremely helpful and thought I'd try again. For some context, he's a cavoodle, and the family dog. My mum and brother (15) have always wanted a dog. After some discussion, research and consideration we bought home our puppy (who was 8 weeks at the time).
Since we've bought him home, we started crate training right away. He's quite a nervous and shy puppy so it naturally took him longer to grow accustomed to his crate. At first it took him 10-15 minutes to settle, sometimes longer. We sit next to his crate, play white noise, and would reach into the crate and rest our hand to help him settle. At puppy school the trainer suggested we introduce the world 'calm', we has helped noticeably. We have also incorporate play around his plate, only give him lick mats and kongs when he's in his crate to create positive associations. He now settles much quicker, but will cry and whine sometimes if we get up and leave him while he's falling asleep.
We've been trying to train him to spend time alone without being unsettled and anxious. We crate him, leave for a couple seconds, mark and reward. We've worked up to 30-40 seconds on average and just shy of 50 seconds on a good day.
During the day, I (20F) often have work (9-3) and my brother has school. My mum is able to come home for an hour or two everyday after his nap to take him out, play with him, feed him etc. So far that has been working well as he sleeps for quite some time in the mornings in his crate. My main concern is that because he's been around us for most of his waking moments, he will be anxious and remain clingy as he grows. We don't give him constant attention when he's awake. We usually do a short training session, play/walk, have some downtime for him where he plays with toys alone or is just there while we do other things, and then a small training session before he's back in his crate. When we first bought him home he would drop whatever he was doing if we moved away from him. This has improved, although he will follow us if we're out of his sight for too long. I'm also afraid that as he gets older he won't want/need to nap as long, and that will make it difficult on the days I have uni classes (1-3 hours + 30 minute commute). I don't want him to be anxious, whining and just distressed while we are gone.
I'm very open to any advice anyone has, and just for some reassurance overall. Was your pup also like this? Am I doing the right thing? I'm so afraid I'm doing something wrong. I've consulted with his puppy school trainer, offered through our local vet, who said he should become more confident and okay with time as we saw a significant improvement over the 4 weeks he had puppy school. I'm just afraid that if he wakes up while we're gone, and my mum is still making her way home, he will become distressed and we will lose all progress we've made with him. Sorry this reads a bit like a vent. It's been a stressful month :,) but I love him dearly and want to do whatever is best for him.
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