Hi everyone. I really need some support and stories from people who raised a puppy completely on their own (no partner).
I have a Havanese puppy, she just turned 3 months old. I got her when she was 10 weeks old. Iāve always dreamed of having a dog. Before getting her I read a lot, planned my life so I could stay at home (I work from home), and tried to set up a good routine and learn how to train and socialize her āthe right wayā.
Sheās been with me for almost a month now. During the first weeks I cried almost every day. Even with all the preparation, the reality was very different. Now itās a bit more manageable: we kind of have a routine, and in my head I understand sheās just a baby learning how to live in this world with me. In some ways she already makes me a better person. But honestly, I still get so tired and overwhelmed sometimes.
I also realized that my āold lifeā is gone. Itās funny to think how I imagined I could just keep my evening activities (like dance classes) and simply āfit the dog inā. In reality she canāt stay home alone for long yet, and that changes everything.
I used a pet sitter once, because I really didnāt want to miss an important event and completely disappear from my social life. When I came back, I didnāt feel guilty, I actually felt relieved and happy to see her ā which maybe is a sign that this balance is possible.
I read a lot about dogs, training, schedules, etc., and sometimes it feels like Iām not doing enough, and other times like Iām doing way too much. I just canāt find that golden middle. People keep saying āenjoy the puppy stage, it goes so fastā, but honestly sometimes I just canāt wait for her to grow up a bit so life feels less intense and I can get at least some parts of my old life back.
My parents live in another country, and theyāve been very emotionally supportive ā we talk more now and it actually brought us closer, which is a big positive thing. But I still cry sometimes (way less than before, but it still happens).
Iām not trying to complain or say I regret it. I fully accept the responsibility, and I already feel like sheās part of my home and family. I just really want to hear from people who also got a puppy while living alone:
- How did you cope emotionally?
- When did it start to feel easier?
- What happened to your social life?
- Were you able to go back to hobbies / classes / evenings out?
- What helped you not feel ātrappedā at home all the time?
Thank you so much to anyone who reads and shares their experience š