My anxiety tells me it’s never going to get better – one year old rescue mini goldendoodle

Hi everybody,

I know this have been shared again and again but I feel like everyone gets better and I won’t.

I lost my 12 years old dog a little more than a month ago and adopted my 11 months old mini goldendoodle right after. Was it a good or a bad idea, I don’t know.

He is a rescue and was abandoned because of his separation anxiety.

I immediately began the training with a personal trainer.

He learned to walk calmly, to stay, and we are currently trying to teach him how to sit and lay down (sorry if my English is not perfect, that’s not my first language). The trainer says he is intelligent but stubborn.

We managed to make him learn how to not sleep with us in only two nights. We intend on letting him sleep with us for a few nights a week but only in a few months, when he has learned how to stay alone. We also managed to leave him alone for half a day and he didn’t break anything nor barked for a long time.

BUT. He began to pee and poo inside… so our trained recommended us to get a pen. And he absolutely hates it. However, it helps with the potty and he now does outside. But it’s only been two days and we can’t even go in another room without him crying.

Today, I am the one who cried. It’s only been a month and it feels like 6 months of hell.

On a daily basis, I train him + potty outings 30 minutes 3 times a day, I play with him twice a day, I try to enforce naps.

I need hope. Is there hope?

TLDR: got a 11 months old rescue anxious mini golden doodle and he is draining me.