Crate training is making me insane

I got a puppy about a month ago. I have wanted a dog for a while now since my last dog of 12 years passed away from health issues. Since I have brought the pup home -Layla is her name. She’s a pit tick hound mix. She has been nothing but trouble. I cannot get her house broken no matter how many times I take her out she will pee as soon as she gets back inside. Never in the same spot so puppy pads where she peed last are pointless. I play with her and walk her so much through the day. It makes no difference. She will still destroy my sons things -4month old infant. She has eaten so many binkies, teething toys, socks his play Matt. I don’t know what to do at this point. I have been trying to get her crate trained for when we are not home and at night time. She will howl and cry like she is actually being beat and tortured while in her crate until I either let her out of yell like a lunatic. I live in an apartment. My neighbors are complaining that the dog is keeping their kids up at night and I’m she she is because she keeps mine up too. I have never hated a dog , or any animal for that matter. But I think I hate her. I just get angry when she does anything at all. I am not going to hurt her to be clear , but the thought has crossed my mind. I am looking for a solution I guess on how to get her to stop peeing in the house and destroying it if she is left out of her crate. Is post partum rage on a dog a thing ? Because I think I may have that. I’m exhausted and really ready to just throw in the towel and get rid of the dog