13 week old is a menace

I’m so thankful for you all and this group. I’ve posted a million times on here but have had so much amazing feedback. We are 13 weeks and she’s getting a lot better with the crate but is such a bitch when it comes to us correcting her on bad behaviors. She will just turn around and snap at us and be so defiant. It makes me feel so stupid and not respected. She respects my older male dog. I wish I had that respect.