I am so scared I will never be able to leave my puppy alone

Hi everyone. We got a puppy after we lost our older dog and wanted to get a companion for our other older dog, who tolerates but doesn’t love the puppy yet – which is really sad 🙁

Anyway. Puppy is pretty good. She’s smart and she even had been warning us sometimes when she needs to go out ( she’s only 11 weeks!). I’ve had her 2 weeks and I go back to work in 2/3 weeks. So far the crate is not working workout and I’ve been patient and diligent. I’ve done the trainings, watched YouTube, let her cry, she yelps and cries and screams and is so upset to be left in it for any period of time. Like … how will I ever be able to leave? How can we support her if we can’t go to work?

I’d be an advocate for just letting her cry but sometimes she gets so upset she poops in the crate and I just cannot keep cleaning poop from the nooks and crannies my god.

I am desperate. It’s not for lack of trying, I didn’t just lock her in there and say oh well. We hung out in the room, gave her high value treats, feed her in the crate, fun toys, only come back in when crying stops, put on relaxing music. It’s like the panic sets in as soon as she thinks we’re gone. Even though we’ve repeatedly come back for her. I’m worried and I’m just stressed and over it. I can’t even take a shower without hellish barking and screaming. I tried puppy proofing the room and putting a baby gate incase it was confinement, she escapes the gate. I tried closing the door and leaving her in the room, still freaks out. Help me please .