Please help, I don’t know what to do 😢

Ok, this is going to be a long one – ANY help is appreciated as I’m at my wits end!

So, we brought our little girlie home just over a week ago. She is beautiful and absolutely perfect, potty training is going great so far only a couple of accidents over the past week. She eats & drinks really well & is food motivated but not excessively.

What’s the issue I hear you say 😂 well, I cannot do anything at all. I can’t cook, clean, shower, go to the bathroom – anything. She goes absolutely ballistic if she’s locked in her crate. My boyfriend and I haven’t been able to do the weekly food shop, he has to wait for me to come home to take a shower and vice versa. I know, crate training takes time etc but how do I take a shower? Where can I put her safely? I don’t mind leaving her in the living room but the second the door is closed she goes mad, crying intensely etc. the only time she’s ok in the crate with the door closed is during the night. Also, she WILL NOT go to sleep unless she’s held, she will walk around literally exhausted tripping over her own feet but still won’t rest.

Things we’ve already tried: Heartbeat bear – not really interested Feeding & treats in the crate. Stuffies in crate. Blanket from mum&siblings. No blanket. Bed. No bed. Clothing of ours. Blanket over the crate & without. I’m ashamed to admit we’ve also tried “cry it out” as we were desperate but she was that frantic she peed all over herself.

She does not seem frightened of the crate one bit, it just seems she just wants to be right up next to us and won’t settle unless she’s is. If I put my hand in the crate etc she will eventually settle down. But I can’t keep lying on the wooden floor for an hour every time she needs to nap.

Please please ANY help would be greatly appreciated we love her to death but I need to be able to nip to the shops or take a shower 😰

• also, I posted this on some FB groups & just basically got people saying give her time, takes weeks etc etc, so does everyone that has a puppy not have jobs? 👀 I’ve taken 3 weeks off work which is the maximum I can take! I wish I could take months off to crate train etc but I can’t!