My wife and I adopted a sweet, perfect puppy (Ekko) last July. For the first two weeks, I felt like I made a mistake. That was until the very first time that I came home from work and he was so excited to see me that his butt was wiggling because his tail was so happy. After that, my life just exploded with love and joy. Unfortunately, he passed away in January at 8 months old.
When Ekko died, I grieved so hard. It was on par with the worst pain I’ve ever felt in my life. I saved everything that reminded me off him: his toys, his bed, his crate, the 16 pound puppy food I just bought days earlier, even a towel I kept in my car that he liked to sleep on in the backseat. I couldn’t even look at most of his things without bursting into tears, so I never considered throwing anything out or putting it away.
After 5 months, I’ve reached a point I never thought I’d reach. I’ve managed to heal. I washed and put away the towel, I put away his crate. Our house isn’t frozen in time to the day Ekko died the way it was for the first month. I still miss my boy deeply every day, and I still cry sometimes, but I’m not in pure agony the way I was for the first 6 weeks or so.
So now we are adopting another puppy, because we both feel ready to pour love into another dog, and we miss the pure unconditional love that comes from having one in our lives. He’s coming home in the next few days, and we’re getting supplies to prepare. But we also have a lot of toys in varying conditions that would be great for a new puppy. I’m just feeling torn about whether we should let the new dog have them, or store or donate them. My wife feels like we should allow the new dog to have the toys so they don’t go to waste, because they’re in mostly good condition. And I completely get where she’s coming from and don’t think it’s unreasonable, but for some reason I’m feeling a bit more hesitant. I just kind of feel like it would be like erasing Ekko and replacing him with a new dog.
So I guess I’m just trying to crowd source advice or opinions from other puppy parents. Would you re-use the old toys? Or would you start over with new toys?
Sorry for the novel. TL;DR: My previous puppy died suddenly, and we still have a bunch of his toys. We’re bringing home a new puppy this weekend and trying to decide if we should let him play with the old toys or buy him new ones. Would appreciate any perspectives or advice to help us make a decision.
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