Need urgent help rehoming dog in NJ (toddler safety concerns)

I feel like I’m at my breaking point with my dog and I really need advice.

I don’t even know where to start, but I’m overwhelmed and honestly just need help figuring out what to do next.

I have a dog who will be 6 in July. He really is a great dog overall, and things were manageable when I had one child. But now I have two kids (5 and 1.5 years), and I feel completely maxed out. I barely have the mental capacity to take care of everything as it is, and my dog has unfortunately fallen to the bottom of the list.

I hate admitting this, but sometimes I even forget to feed him, and when I do remember, I feel more annoyed than anything. I feel awful saying that, but it’s where I’m at mentally.

What’s making this more serious is that there have been a couple of unprovoked aggression incidents toward my toddler (probably because he feels all the changes). That was the final push for us to try to rehome him because I just don’t feel like I can safely manage both anymore.

We’ve had him listed on rehoming sites for about a month (even paid ones), and there has been zero interest. I’ve looked into shelters and rescues, but everything seems full, and I feel completely stuck. Meanwhile, my stress is just getting worse and worse.

I know people will say training, more exercise, etc., but I’m being honest when I say I don’t have anything left to give right now. I need a realistic solution.

Does anyone know of any shelters, rescues, or resources in/around New Jersey that are actually taking dogs right now? Or any advice on how to successfully rehome when you’re not getting any interest?

Please be kind, I already feel terrible about the situation. I just want to do the right thing for my kids, my dog, and myself.