Adolescent crate training advice/reassurance needed

We adopted an 8 month old lab viszla/GSP(maybe) mix about a month ago and are having some difficulties with crate training. She’s never been crate trained so I’d love to hear your advice and thoughts on training at this age and what we can do with her current issues.

Night sleeping

We started with the crate in our room and she had many bathroom breaks a night but would go straight back to sleep when be brought her back in. As time went on the bathroom breaks stopped and we gradually moved the crate into the living room. It’s now almost at its final destination however we’re having an issue where she will wake up at 3.45am and bark the house down.

We let her out for a toilet break but when we put her back it starts back up again. Whether I’m in the room or not. The issue is that we live in a flat and have 2 side neighbours and 1 above. Some have kids. So it’s really hard for us to just let her bark it out. Sometimes she also thrashes around so we have to let her out.

When she comes out she will sleep on the sofa if we sit on it. I’m worried she knows she’ll get to sleep with us on the sofa if she kicks off so we’ve taught a cycle that will be difficult to break.

We have an alarm that we use before we let her out to try to mitigate the idea that the barks let her out, so she thinks it the alarm. It doesn’t seem to have done anything.

Day sleeping

She doesn’t nap on her own accord so we really want her to be able to be put in the crate. We familiarised her with the crate for about 2 weeks- big treats in there/capturing calmness/closing door gradually and increasing duration. We got a few naps this way.

A week or so ago we started putting her in there, covering and walking away. She barked for 5-10 minutes , some times even 3 and then napped. However for the last few days it’s got worse and she will bark frantically, thrash around, and destroy her bed. She doesn’t seem to slow down with the barking and the most we’ve been able to leave her is 30 mins but we had to let her out. Again we use the alarm.

I’m at a loss of what to do as if I keep going down this path then I worry she will keep making a negative association with the crate.

Sorry for the long post, I just really need guidance as It’s essential that she’s crate trained as we can’t trust her home alone yet!