Impulse control too much, too soon?

So, I have 2 English setters. A 3 year old male and a 3 month old female.

We trained the first setter ourselves and it went extremely well. He has excellent recall (hard to do for this breed) extremely obedient, and very loving. It feels like at this point you can speak to him like a human and he knows what you want somehow.

While training my new puppy, a thing that was important to me to hammer out was impulse control. A method I used to train that is by a “sit” “look at me” I would throw the treat, and make the puppy wait until her release word “okay” for her to get the treat. This was important to learn in my opinion so she waits for her food, waits for pets, and does not sprint out of doors when opened. “Wait” has been very helpful for my older pup.

Well, this has backfired. I am now trying to teach action commands. Commands like “place”, “bed”, “crate”, “inside”, and so on. She has developed the habit of when I walk her to her crate, and say the command, she sits and looks at me until I release her with “okay” to go to the place I told her to go.

I have tried throwing a treat opposite of the crate to get her out of her sit and stare mode, release her to the thrown treat, and then try to throw a treat in the crate or bed and simultaneously say the word “crate”. When I do that, she will get the first treat and then sit and stare at me until I release her to go get the treat in the desired place. I really do not want to repeat the word “crate” as I do not want to repeat commands however it just ends up in the worlds cutest staring contest.

How can I help her distinguish when it is a wait situation vs. an action commands?